Valentine’s Day myths and Facts


Chocolates or flowers are good V-Day gifts

Why this is false: Just like going out for dinner, chocolate and flowers are not the wrong thing to do – they’re just overly conventional. What to do instead: Originality is worth a lot on Valentine’s Day, especially when all of her friends will be getting the usual flowers and chocolates. Stand out by getting her something out of the ordinary. Does she like to travel? Get her a subscription to a travel magazine. Does she like music? Get her concert tickets.

You need to spend loads of money on her gift

Why this is false: It’s the thought that really counts the most when it comes to Valentine’s Day. What to do instead: Try getting her a small gift with a lot of meaning. If you are just starting to get serious, for example, buy her a pair of slippers or a robe to keep in your apartment.

Don’t expect a gift in return

Why this is false: While Valentine’s Day is usually marketed as “her” holiday, there’s no rule stating she can’t surprise you with a little something. So, chances are very good that you’ll get your box of candy. What to do instead: If the whole guessing game about whether you’re getting a gift or not is bugging you, approach the subject of a “no gift” idea with her and make plans together for a romantic weekend getaway or a perfect night out instead.

The gift has to be cheesy or romantic

Why this is false: Just the opposite, actually. There is no rule that says you have to write her poems or sing her a song on Valentine’s Day. What to do instead: If you’re not comfortable with the cheesiness, forget it. Just stick to getting her a fun gift. Try buying a good board game or a cool CD – then go home and play it together.

Lingerie makes a good V-Day gift

Why this is false: Actually, this myth is not entirely false. Lingerie can be a nice part of a gift for a self-assured woman, bearing in mind that you need to know her size and style preferences. But usually, she’ll like that to be part of a sexy gift – not all of it. What to do instead: For a really sexy gift, try buying a book on massage techniques that you can learn together or – if you are good and ready for it – a copy of the Kama Sutra.